Saturday, August 3, 2013
To Accept or Reject - Healing
Too often in this world we are subject to judgement and subject others to judgement without realising that it can be very destructive. Destructive to the self esteem of a spouse, child or peer or a stranger, it can have a very negative effect on the way a person perceives him or herself. Kindness and compassion costs nothing and can save a life. An emotional life.
Words can be healing. Words can be soothing. Words can be as sharp as the teeth of a sabre tooth tiger and dangerous. The bite of an unkind, insensitive remark can fester in the soul of a child, a partner, a sibling or peer for years. It can be a cancer that destroys the psychological equilibrium of others if used to belittle or to denigrate. Words are a powerful weapon and the mouth is more dangerous than a nuclear warhead if used in a negative way.
People all need praise and all people are worthy of praise. The Abishter created us all for a divine purpose which is to bring holiness into this world and to perform a tikkun in their own small way.
We all know how hard it is to be perfect. Only G-D is perfect. Therefore we need to forgive the imperfections of others, accept that they like us are on a path to perfecting ourselves which is continuous. We spend our lives learning. We thank G-D for opportunities for growth. Sometimes it is hard to stay with the programme. We need to discipline ourselves continually. We get down and we feel at times, oh, what is the use AND G-D WHAT DO YOU WANT OF ME? You sometimes cry in the dead of night, like Tevye of Fiddler on the Roof and you say half musingly, 'It's a darn pity. You put all these obstacles in my way. Can't you choose to TEST SOMEONE ELSE? Or G-D PLEASE TEST SOMEONE ELSE TODAY!'
However G-D expects us to try and not give up. Continue to work on ourselves and not to judge others. If they behave in objectionable ways we accept them as fallible human beings and hope and pray they find their feet and continue their journey in the right way.
Remember a person can live a terrible life, indulge their animal soul and deny even that G-D exists but if in the last hour of his life he understands and does a complete teshuva, it is accepted.
For some of us who spend their lives on a path of teshuva this is hard to accept. We may want that degenerate perverted person punished. Forever. However Hasem's boundless compassion is evident in all ways. If a person has TRUE remorse that shakes his soul to the core and he or she puts aside all errors of the past, they are purified and blessed.
We should see Moishiach in this generation and immediately. There is much work to be done both on a personal level and otherwise reaching out to bring the world back from the brink of destruction morally and in all ways.